EE Advanced Theological Studies

Why You Should Not Implement The "90 Day Rule” Into Your Dating Lives

A little while ago, I took my girlfriend to go see Think Like A Man so she could add more attractive men to her celebrity freebie listand so I could fume over a comedian making money for doing something that I do for free every week.

Although the dating tips and advice offered in the movie were both generic and unfortunately true, there was one rule that flabbergasted me: The "Don't Give Up The Cookie” For 90 Days Rule.

As soon as we heard that, my girlfriend and I looked at each other and laughed out loud in unison.

While I was wondering why any woman would think this was a good idea, (and wondering why on earth a woman's vagina is now universally being referred to as a "cookie.”) I saw many women in the audience nodding their heads in agreement with the ludicrous suggestion.

After walking out of the theatre, I asked Sabrina if she ever implemented the '90 Day Rule' and she laughed and admitted to saying once.

Of course, when I asked who it was, it was her ex-boyfriend who ended up leaving her for another man.

Over the past six and a half years of knowing Sabrina, I now know better not to point and laugh at her for this if I want to avoid being slapped upside my head.

We then went out for some much needed drinks and dissected why women should not implement the 90 Day Rule into their online dating lives and here are some reasons we came up with:

Don't Treat Your "Cookie” Like A Full-Time Job

Okay, I get why women want to wait 3 months-because just like a job, you want a man to work for your "cookie.”  However, do you really want men to treat sex with you like a full-time job and better yet, are you prepared to offer sex full-time after he's done his "probational period?”  Yeah, I didn't think so. Unless you're going to offer up your cookie from nine to five for five days a week, it's best to avoid implementing this rule or you run the risk of him leaving for another "job” that offers more benefits so to speak.

Your New Boyfriend Should Not Pay For Your Ex's Mistakes

When women incorporate this rule into their dating lives, it's usually because of some jerk off they dated before.  It always seems that good men are paying for asshole's bed-hopping mistakes and it makes us sick.  A good man will wait when you are ready, but if we know that you gave it up on the first date with your ex, then we will probably not take too kindly to this information.

Makes You Look A Major Control Freak

When it comes to dating, men want women who "go with the flow.” We love women that treat their relationships like adventures to discover.  We understand that we shouldn't get in your pants on the first date, but when you implement a 3 month rule right off the bat, that's a major turn off-not because you are a prude, but that you are already controlling the outcome of an aspect of the relationship. It's a major red flag!

What If You Already Know Each Other For A Long Time?

Sabrina and I slept together on the first date, however we had already knew each other for close to a year.  A lot of people are friends before they are lovers these days and if you already know each other inside and out, why should wait any longer to know each other...well.. "inside and out?”

You Honestly Think Players Can't Wait Three Months?

Women usually think that this rule will automatically rule out the players from the genuine men, but I can tell you right now that generalization is false.  Just like what Eddie Murphy had said in his infamous "Raw” stand-up, a man can wait to have sex with you even if he doesn't like you anymore.  It then becomes a game to get in your pants and once he hits it, he might pull a disappearing act on you.

What If The Sex Isn't Good?

So you waited three months and then you have sex--only to discover that he lacks girth, performance and stamina. So now you started genuinely caring about someone who doesn't please you in the sack.  A waste of time if you ask me.

So in conclusion, I'm not saying that waiting to have sex in a new relationship is bad, but do it when the time is right-and not when someone who had three failed marriages in real-life tells you when the time is right.